Ok 'mos, time for a rather serious post. I was just on AfterEllen, and had a most disturbing conversation that forced me and others to examine the prejudice within the lesbian community against people who should be treated as one of our own: bisexual women. Now, as has already been mentioned in a previous "myth" post, THIS
is simply not what does it for us. Agree?
However, as we are all well aware, there are lady lovin' ladies for whom this occasionally(or more than occasionally) does rock their worlds. And there is nothing wrong with that. And that brings me to the serious part of this post. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual.
But there are some lesbians who have a problem with bisexual women. And this is a problem. Now, I have personally been left on three occasions due to situations surrounding my partners' attraction to men. Not gonna lie, this means that I am more comfortable dating another lesbian rather than a bisexual woman. I also have a sense of resentment toward 'heterosexual privilege' enjoyed by bisexuals who are in heterosexual relationships, especially those of the variety who decide to pass for straight, or choose men over women for the sole purpose of having an easier life. Queerness is cool, and we should all embrace who we are, no matter where we fall on the LGBTQPIA spectrum.
However, after some of the responses in that thread, I can see why some bisexuals may be wary of the queer community. Are some of the reasons for wariness, on both ends, valid? Sure they are. But discounting all bisexuals because you got burned by one woman who happened to be bi is wrong. It is the same bigotry we face from so many straight people, and we are applying it to our own. So, in debunking this myth, I am a little angry, and a lot alarmed, because, in some ways, for some dykes, it isn't a myth at all.
So, homogays, what do you suggest we do about this? We fight so much prejudice from the outside, we hardly have room for it on the inside. I challenge you all to examine yourselves. Are you so hung up on being gay, that you exhibit gay elitist behavior toward other letters in our acronym? I admit to being at least slightly guilty of it, but I am willing to change. Are you?